i started wedding wednesday as a way to connect to my current and future brides! planning a wedding is stressful enough. things happen throughout the planning process that no one can ever really prepare you for. one of those things is when your wedding day has been made about something other than the relationship between you and your groom.

brides, please make this day about you and your groom. am i encouraging you to be a bridezilla? no!!!! i am encouraging you to do the following three things to make sure your wedding day is actually about you!!!!

1} surround yourself with your favorite people!

don’t worry about having to include aunt betsy’s third cousin, twice removed as a bridesmaid. you need people standing beside you that are there to help and support you. you need people that love you and your soon to be spouse for who you are and nothing less. you deserve the best on your wedding day and having people that want the best for you will make you the happiest on your wedding day!

2} decide what is best for you

almost all of my wedding consultations go in the same direction. “we want a first look, but my mother is not sold”. i usually just look at them and wait for an explanation. no offense to the mother of the bride, but it isn’t her day! is she excited to see her daughter get married to the love of her life?! you betcha! but are you going to regret not having that extra 30-45 minutes with your groom for bride and groom portraits when you see you only have 15 portraits of just the two of you! i respect the decision of my brides and if they choose traditional or a first look, but i NEVER urge them to base their decision on what someone else wants or thinks. it is 100% up to my bride and her groom how they plan out their wedding day timeline!

3} have a person

you need a person. yes, a grey’s anatomy person! your bff that would do ANYTHING for you! that person is the person you need to go to for everything on your wedding day! can’t find your special locket grandma gave you in 5th grade? your person needs to step in and handle it for you…you don’t need to be running errands on your wedding day. you don’t need to worry about the fruit table’s linens being wrinkled. let your person put someone else on that job! this is your wedding day…not a day to fret and be frantic. you should take away only happy memories 🙂 and your person can help you do this!

i urge all of my brides to read through the wedding wednesday posts…they will benefit you in your planning process!